This is not about making life more pleasant
This is not about striking a secret deal
So that life throws less painful shit your way
Things never get better; no upward slope here
Life will be the first to stab you in the back.
There is no protection against experience
If you’re looking for protection, you are doubly screwed
We’re all equal candidates for life’s horrors
Shit can, does and will happen to you
Again no protection was ever on offer
So, start from that fact…be grounded there
Experience has its own natural lubricant
It comes, shocks, hurts, horrifies and is over
You, a gaping throat, remain
Constant Voice 
The trouble is that we are educated wrongly to suppose everything will be pleasant and agreeable so the opposite reality is an unpalatable shock. Some of us never recover from this shock and find their only solution in concepts of unfairness and blame.